Be careful who you open up to.
Only a few people actually care.
The rest are just nosy.
o.O
Only a few people actually care.
The rest are just nosy.
o.O
Showing posts with label life. Show all posts
Showing posts with label life. Show all posts
10.15.2010
2.18.2010
Maintaining Your Individuality in Love (reposting)
What is the distinction between mature love and a common misconception of what love is: the symbiotic relationship? Mature love is stable, a union of two people who respect themselves and each other. Symbiotic love is needy and dependent. Symbiotic relationships demand that one person has power over another. This results in the loss of the integrity of both partners. Mature love means that both individuals in the partnership have room to be themselves, even while being together. In the symbiotic relationship, one partner is driven by need and fear that the other partner will leave. In mature love, each partner is free and whole, choosing, rather than being driven, to give love to the other partner.
Mature love requires giving your love with no strings attached, with no expectations. Many of us have learned from society that to give means "to give up" or "to give away" -- in essence, creating a deficit in ourselves. Further, we learn to give only as much as we expect to receive in return, lest we end up feeling cheated by giving more. Giving, as it exists in mature love, is quite different from these types of messages we have received. Rather than being seen as a sacrifice or an investment in future returns, giving in mature love comes from a desire to give and an ability to do so. In the words of Erich Fromm, author of The Art of Loving published in 1956, "Giving is the highest expression of potency... more joyous than receiving, not because it is a deprivation, but because in the act of giving lies the expression of my aliveness."
In a symbiotic relationship, one partner gives up a significant part of himself or herself in order to maintain a peaceful relationship. This individual, ruled by a fear of being alone, will sacrifice parts of his or her identity for the sake of keeping the relationship intact. Short-term conflict is avoided, and the status quo is maintained. In the long run, though, there is a price to be paid: the loss of one's individuality. If one partner idolizes the other and is willing to sacrifice himself more
completely, then the other partner has more power and control over the relationship. When the balance of power is unequal, the relationship becomes unsatisfying for both partners; almost inevitably, it ends. There are a lot of people willing to give up an awful lot to avoid being alone. They are willing to give up who they are, what they are, and what they want and need. They are willing to sacrifice their individuality for the love of another.
Any person who is willing to make such a sacrifice lacks self-love, and thus is incapable of maintaining a mature, loving relationship. Self-love is where love for others has to start. Giving up your individuality will eventually come back to haunt you; you will end up feeling anger, resentment, and/or regret. The outcome of one partner resenting the other is the deterioration of the relationship. People need relationships, but they also need to be fulfilled within themselves. When you give up your dreams for the sake of your partner's, you do so at the cost of your own individuality and personal growth.
When you enter into a relationship, it does not mean that your personal life stops. Your life does not totally change because you are with another person. You have to maintain your own individuality. You have to have your own personal goals. You need to maintain the friendships, hobbies and interests that you had before you met your partner. If you give these up for the sake of your relationship, you are giving up your life. When your partner first met you, they were attracted to you as an individual. It's important that you keep your individuality-- that's what attracted your partner in the first place. Maintaining your individuality will enable you and your partner to build a mature loving relationship. Many relationships fail today because one partner has given up too much of themselves for the other. You have to love yourself first, before you can love another. If you enter a relationship and give up all the things that define you as an individual, you are not giving yourself the love that you need. Sooner or later, if you lose your identity, if you stop giving to yourself, you will be unable to give to your relationship. It's important not to confuse identity and individuality with flexibility in your relationship. Individuality is about the things that make you who you are. Flexibility is about compromise. Compromise will always be necessary in any relationship that you have. In order to compromise, you have to be committed to honest communication of your feelings and needs at all times. In building a life together, problems will arise. Problem solving through honest communication is the key to building a mature, loving relationship. Neither you nor your partner should give up anything that makes you the unique person that you are. It's up to you and your partner to find the balance that you both need to succeed in a rising loving relationship.
♥♥♥
Mature love requires giving your love with no strings attached, with no expectations. Many of us have learned from society that to give means "to give up" or "to give away" -- in essence, creating a deficit in ourselves. Further, we learn to give only as much as we expect to receive in return, lest we end up feeling cheated by giving more. Giving, as it exists in mature love, is quite different from these types of messages we have received. Rather than being seen as a sacrifice or an investment in future returns, giving in mature love comes from a desire to give and an ability to do so. In the words of Erich Fromm, author of The Art of Loving published in 1956, "Giving is the highest expression of potency... more joyous than receiving, not because it is a deprivation, but because in the act of giving lies the expression of my aliveness."
In a symbiotic relationship, one partner gives up a significant part of himself or herself in order to maintain a peaceful relationship. This individual, ruled by a fear of being alone, will sacrifice parts of his or her identity for the sake of keeping the relationship intact. Short-term conflict is avoided, and the status quo is maintained. In the long run, though, there is a price to be paid: the loss of one's individuality. If one partner idolizes the other and is willing to sacrifice himself more
completely, then the other partner has more power and control over the relationship. When the balance of power is unequal, the relationship becomes unsatisfying for both partners; almost inevitably, it ends. There are a lot of people willing to give up an awful lot to avoid being alone. They are willing to give up who they are, what they are, and what they want and need. They are willing to sacrifice their individuality for the love of another.
Any person who is willing to make such a sacrifice lacks self-love, and thus is incapable of maintaining a mature, loving relationship. Self-love is where love for others has to start. Giving up your individuality will eventually come back to haunt you; you will end up feeling anger, resentment, and/or regret. The outcome of one partner resenting the other is the deterioration of the relationship. People need relationships, but they also need to be fulfilled within themselves. When you give up your dreams for the sake of your partner's, you do so at the cost of your own individuality and personal growth.
When you enter into a relationship, it does not mean that your personal life stops. Your life does not totally change because you are with another person. You have to maintain your own individuality. You have to have your own personal goals. You need to maintain the friendships, hobbies and interests that you had before you met your partner. If you give these up for the sake of your relationship, you are giving up your life. When your partner first met you, they were attracted to you as an individual. It's important that you keep your individuality-- that's what attracted your partner in the first place. Maintaining your individuality will enable you and your partner to build a mature loving relationship. Many relationships fail today because one partner has given up too much of themselves for the other. You have to love yourself first, before you can love another. If you enter a relationship and give up all the things that define you as an individual, you are not giving yourself the love that you need. Sooner or later, if you lose your identity, if you stop giving to yourself, you will be unable to give to your relationship. It's important not to confuse identity and individuality with flexibility in your relationship. Individuality is about the things that make you who you are. Flexibility is about compromise. Compromise will always be necessary in any relationship that you have. In order to compromise, you have to be committed to honest communication of your feelings and needs at all times. In building a life together, problems will arise. Problem solving through honest communication is the key to building a mature, loving relationship. Neither you nor your partner should give up anything that makes you the unique person that you are. It's up to you and your partner to find the balance that you both need to succeed in a rising loving relationship.
♥♥♥
1.04.2009
start the new year right
Here's an article i thought of sharing since it is the new year.
Let's all have a new beginning. Start anew, have a fresh start. (^-^)
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Stop Comparing
By: Bo Sanchez
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We live in a pathologically dissatisfied world. And I'm going to tell you why. Because we love to compare. Go around the world and discover that people aren't happy with their bodies.
Filipinos want to be fair-complexioned like Westerners, and so buy bleaching stuff. Westerners want to own bronzed bodies like ours, and so purchase tanning lotions.
Those with moles have them removed, while those who don't strategically implant beauty spots.
Some people want to shed a few pounds to look like Ally McBeal, while others want to gain some baby fat to look like Drew Barrymore.
When are we ever going to stop and simply be happy with how we look? We live in a sick world. I tell you. And that sickness is comparisonitis. Take a look at wealth. When we drive our old Toyota , it really suits us fine. We feel blessed in fact when the rain pours outside and we feel snug and cozy on its faded upholstered seats.
But the moment we see our own office mate (or neighbor, or buddy, or cousin, or brother) drive his sleek sky-blue, four-door, four-wheel-drive Rav4, we automatically feel like third class children of God. Next time we drive our bumpy, noisy, rusted, dilapidated Toyota (notice how all the defects come out all of a sudden?), we feel deprived, dispossessed, pariah, debased, and only a little higher than the insects of the earth.
Listen carefully. Bill Gates' total assets are worth $60 billion. That's more than the GNP of some small countries. Tiger Woods earns $80 million simply by smiling on TV in a Nike shirt. And the stars of the sitcom Friends are paid $50,000 per episode! My point? No matter how hard you work, there'll still be some people who will be richer than you are.
And there'll be some people who will be more beautiful, have more sex appeal, have more boyfriends/girlfriends, and have more problems. Try it for once. Stop looking around. Don't compare!
Don't compare her nose with your nose.
Don't compare his wife with your wife.
Don't compare his salary with your salary.
Don't compare her breast size with your breast size.
Don't compare her kid's report card with your kid's report card.
Don't compare his prayer group with your prayer group.
Don't compare her/his cellulite deposits with your cellulite deposits.
Stop comparing and start living and you'll be happier with your life.
This is crucial: The most difficult thing in the world is to be who you are not. Pretending and trying to be someone else is the official pastime of the human race. (I don't think dogs and cats and cows and horses have this problem).
And the easiest thing in the world is to be yourself.
Be happy. Live!
There must be a reason why God made you tall or short or fat or thin or bumpy all over.
Love who you are!
Let's all have a new beginning. Start anew, have a fresh start. (^-^)
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Stop Comparing
By: Bo Sanchez
==============
We live in a pathologically dissatisfied world. And I'm going to tell you why. Because we love to compare. Go around the world and discover that people aren't happy with their bodies.
Filipinos want to be fair-complexioned like Westerners, and so buy bleaching stuff. Westerners want to own bronzed bodies like ours, and so purchase tanning lotions.
Those with moles have them removed, while those who don't strategically implant beauty spots.
Some people want to shed a few pounds to look like Ally McBeal, while others want to gain some baby fat to look like Drew Barrymore.
When are we ever going to stop and simply be happy with how we look? We live in a sick world. I tell you. And that sickness is comparisonitis. Take a look at wealth. When we drive our old Toyota , it really suits us fine. We feel blessed in fact when the rain pours outside and we feel snug and cozy on its faded upholstered seats.
But the moment we see our own office mate (or neighbor, or buddy, or cousin, or brother) drive his sleek sky-blue, four-door, four-wheel-drive Rav4, we automatically feel like third class children of God. Next time we drive our bumpy, noisy, rusted, dilapidated Toyota (notice how all the defects come out all of a sudden?), we feel deprived, dispossessed, pariah, debased, and only a little higher than the insects of the earth.
Listen carefully. Bill Gates' total assets are worth $60 billion. That's more than the GNP of some small countries. Tiger Woods earns $80 million simply by smiling on TV in a Nike shirt. And the stars of the sitcom Friends are paid $50,000 per episode! My point? No matter how hard you work, there'll still be some people who will be richer than you are.
And there'll be some people who will be more beautiful, have more sex appeal, have more boyfriends/girlfriends, and have more problems. Try it for once. Stop looking around. Don't compare!
Don't compare her nose with your nose.
Don't compare his wife with your wife.
Don't compare his salary with your salary.
Don't compare her breast size with your breast size.
Don't compare her kid's report card with your kid's report card.
Don't compare his prayer group with your prayer group.
Don't compare her/his cellulite deposits with your cellulite deposits.
Stop comparing and start living and you'll be happier with your life.
This is crucial: The most difficult thing in the world is to be who you are not. Pretending and trying to be someone else is the official pastime of the human race. (I don't think dogs and cats and cows and horses have this problem).
And the easiest thing in the world is to be yourself.
Be happy. Live!
There must be a reason why God made you tall or short or fat or thin or bumpy all over.
Love who you are!
♥♥♥
Happy New Year everyone!!!
Happy New Year everyone!!!
12.06.2008
wet pants
Come with me to a third grade classroom...There is a nine-year-old kid sitting at his desk and all of a sudden, there is a puddle between his feet and the front of his pants are wet. He thinks his heart is going to stop because he cannot possibly imagine how this has happened. It's never happened before, and he knows that when the boys find out he will never hear the end of it. When the girls find out, they'll never speak to him again as long as he lives.
The boy believes his heart is going to stop; he puts his head down and prays this prayer, 'Dear God, this is an emergency! I need help now! Five minutes from now I'm dead meat.'
He looks up from his prayer and here comes the teacher with a look in her eyes that says he has been discovered.
As the teacher is walking toward him, a classmate named Susie is carrying a goldfish bowl that is filled with water. Susie trips in front of the teacher and inexplicably dumps the bowl of water in the boy's lap.
The boy pretends to be angry, but all the while is saying to himself, 'Thank you, Lord! Thank you, Lord!'
Now all of a sudden, instead of being the object of ridicule, the boy is the object of sympathy. The teacher rushes him downstairs and gives him gym shorts to put on while his pants dry out. All the other children are on their hands and knees cleaning up around his desk. The sympathy is wonderful. But as life would have it, the ridicule that should have been his has been transferred to someone else - Susie.
She tries to help, but they tell her to get out. You've done enough, you klutz!'
Finally, at the end of the day, as they are waiting for the bus, the boy walks over to Susie and whispers, 'You did that on purpose, didn't you?' Susie whispers back, 'I wet my pants once too.'
May God help us see the opportunities that are always around us to do good..
Remember...Just going to church doesn't make you a Christian any more than standing in your garage makes you a car.
Each and everyone one of us is going through tough times right now, but God is getting ready to bless you in a way that only He can...Keep the faith!
***
This is a forwarded email. Just thought of sharing a simple story that can touch your heart immensely.
o_0
The boy believes his heart is going to stop; he puts his head down and prays this prayer, 'Dear God, this is an emergency! I need help now! Five minutes from now I'm dead meat.'
He looks up from his prayer and here comes the teacher with a look in her eyes that says he has been discovered.
As the teacher is walking toward him, a classmate named Susie is carrying a goldfish bowl that is filled with water. Susie trips in front of the teacher and inexplicably dumps the bowl of water in the boy's lap.
The boy pretends to be angry, but all the while is saying to himself, 'Thank you, Lord! Thank you, Lord!'
Now all of a sudden, instead of being the object of ridicule, the boy is the object of sympathy. The teacher rushes him downstairs and gives him gym shorts to put on while his pants dry out. All the other children are on their hands and knees cleaning up around his desk. The sympathy is wonderful. But as life would have it, the ridicule that should have been his has been transferred to someone else - Susie.
She tries to help, but they tell her to get out. You've done enough, you klutz!'
Finally, at the end of the day, as they are waiting for the bus, the boy walks over to Susie and whispers, 'You did that on purpose, didn't you?' Susie whispers back, 'I wet my pants once too.'
May God help us see the opportunities that are always around us to do good..
Remember...Just going to church doesn't make you a Christian any more than standing in your garage makes you a car.
Each and everyone one of us is going through tough times right now, but God is getting ready to bless you in a way that only He can...Keep the faith!
***
This is a forwarded email. Just thought of sharing a simple story that can touch your heart immensely.
o_0
6.20.2008
SKL :p
I was cleaning my personal folders here in the ofc pc and while deleting, moving and reading through a whole lot of notepad files, i got this. I must have received it on the forwarded emails or read it on the countless blogs i hopped on, i can't remember really ;p anyway, it is a nice story. very enriching. so, share ko lang...
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A little girl and her father were crossing a bridge. The father was kind of scared so he asked his little daughter,"Sweetheart, please hold my hand so that you don't fall into the river." The little girl said, "No, Dad. You hold my hand." "What's the difference?" Asked the puzzled father.
"There's a big difference," replied the little girl. "If I hold your hand and something happens to me, chances are that I may let your hand go. But if you hold my hand, I know for sure that no matter what happens, you will never let my hand go."
***
In any relationship, the essence of trust is not in its bind, but in its bond. So hold the hand of the person whom you love rather than expecting them to hold yours...
***
A little girl and her father were crossing a bridge. The father was kind of scared so he asked his little daughter,"Sweetheart, please hold my hand so that you don't fall into the river." The little girl said, "No, Dad. You hold my hand." "What's the difference?" Asked the puzzled father.
"There's a big difference," replied the little girl. "If I hold your hand and something happens to me, chances are that I may let your hand go. But if you hold my hand, I know for sure that no matter what happens, you will never let my hand go."
***
In any relationship, the essence of trust is not in its bind, but in its bond. So hold the hand of the person whom you love rather than expecting them to hold yours...
The beauty of life does not depend on how happy you are.
But on how happy others can be because of you!!!
♥♥♥
But on how happy others can be because of you!!!
♥♥♥
2.12.2008
Test your mathematical skills
There is a bus with 7 girls.
Each girl has 7 bags.
In each bag, there are 7 big cats.
Each big cat has 7 little cats.
Each cat has 4 legs.
Question: How many legs are present in the bus?
Each girl has 7 bags.
In each bag, there are 7 big cats.
Each big cat has 7 little cats.
Each cat has 4 legs.
Question: How many legs are present in the bus?
I received this in my email last week together with an attached protected spreadsheet. The supposed answer would be the password to open the file. Since i am on petiks mode(hehe), i gladly aim for the solution of the given problem thinking that it is easy. First attempt...wrong. Whoa what item did i miss to include, which legs did i forgot to add or multiply? Hmmmmm...back to calculation. After a couple of minutes i have a brand new answer. Double click the file...password prompt pop ups...enter the digits...press enter...plangak! wrong again. hehehe...this was not easy as it may seem. Okay back to calculating the cats then the legs with a notepad and calc open. Daya? Well the digits are getting bigger eh and i am not that gifted to do it mentally. ('__') A couple of addition and multiplication here and there, another combination of digits was produced. For the 3rd time, i got it all wrong. Nyahahaha...easy pala ah. Now, im challenged. I read again the email this time slowly than the last because this could be a trick question and the answer could just be there screaming at me. But no it was a legit mathematical problem. okay back to the notepad and the calc...there is a bus with the girls, there are bags, cats, kittens...legs, multiply, add...voila! got a new answer. Hoping this is it, i carefully punched the digits and tadah!! the spreadsheet opened. Yihaaa! Im so proud of myself that i added my name on the list and forwarded the email to others. Two of whom i forwarded it to got back to me asking for the answer and one refusing to even try coz it will only give her a headache. Nyahahahha...
Happy Solving!
0__o
1.31.2008
motivation for change
whoah...am posting? hehe...maaga natapos sa work eh kaya daan muna dito bago umuwi. =)
been to kc's blog (yep you read that right as in concepcion...hehehe...lurker ako dun eh) and read this in one of her posts:
ahummmmm...motivation! i'll be 2 years and 6 months na here in 5 weeks. gotta move, gotta move. tick tock tick tock.
o_0
been to kc's blog (yep you read that right as in concepcion...hehehe...lurker ako dun eh) and read this in one of her posts:
"I also learned that God didn't live to teach us how to want more... His life was about the challenge of letting go. They say, let go of something first, go down first, and you'll earn the kind of faith that'll allow you new beginnings and the freedom to grow."thought provoking di ba? applicable kaya sia sa work? hmmmm...and then i remember another quote from a goldilocks planner which goes:
"there is no such thing as can't, only won't.
all it takes is a burning desire to accomplish, to make a change.
go forward, go backward, whatever it takes."
o_0
7.04.2007
4th of july
twas a long night...again. so tiring. buti na lang US holiday kaya walang pasok mamaya. yeba!!! how will i spend it? catching zzzzZZzzz's, silly. I'd rather recharge than waste my energy on midweek. besides, weekend is only a few days away. *_* so, for those teams na gigimik, have fun! for those who will sleep and rest like me, have a restful day. and for those unfortunate souls na pinapapasok ng clients, don't fret solong solo ninyo ang bandwidth. hehehe...
ps: happy birthday to my dear dear friend dhays! have a good one. :)
ps: happy birthday to my dear dear friend dhays! have a good one. :)
12.31.2006
the year that was
As the year ends, i can't help but ponder on the events, things, people, places and what-nots i was blessed with for the past 12 months. On a time like this it is empowering to count your blessings. =) Here's my list:
- roadtrip from vigan to tuguegarao.
- tagaytay weekend with college friends.
- out of town visit to batangas relatives.
- labor day trekking in baguio (1st time in tam-awan village & bell tower while the nth time in the memorable lourdes grotto.
- attending a wedding in binangonan wearing a green gown.
- a day on avilon zoo.
- chinese new year's mass in barasoain church.
- my very first plane ride
- 2 pacu fishes the day before christmas
- horsetail plant that im still trying to grow for a big pot
- my very yummy leche plan =) *got the recipe from my grandma when im still a teen and been perfecting ever since esp now that i have a new patronizer =) want more ayat?
- good old friends (since childhood/hs/college)
- a love life (finally! ahihihi)
- and of course my family
There are still more that made up my everyday life for the past year. I just can't recall them all today. =) I should have continued my things to be grateful for today journal entry so i could remember them all especially the little things.
Oh well, gratitude is always a good thing. Gotta start the year positively. So, to all of you THANK YOU and HAPPY NEW YEAR!!! ;-)
- roadtrip from vigan to tuguegarao.
- tagaytay weekend with college friends.
- out of town visit to batangas relatives.
- labor day trekking in baguio (1st time in tam-awan village & bell tower while the nth time in the memorable lourdes grotto.
- attending a wedding in binangonan wearing a green gown.
- a day on avilon zoo.
- chinese new year's mass in barasoain church.
- my very first plane ride
- 2 pacu fishes the day before christmas
- horsetail plant that im still trying to grow for a big pot
- my very yummy leche plan =) *got the recipe from my grandma when im still a teen and been perfecting ever since esp now that i have a new patronizer =) want more ayat?
- good old friends (since childhood/hs/college)
- a love life (finally! ahihihi)
- and of course my family
There are still more that made up my everyday life for the past year. I just can't recall them all today. =) I should have continued my things to be grateful for today journal entry so i could remember them all especially the little things.
Oh well, gratitude is always a good thing. Gotta start the year positively. So, to all of you THANK YOU and HAPPY NEW YEAR!!! ;-)
9.08.2006
isang taon na kong puyat
- walang trabaho kaya bigla kong naalala na may blog nga pala akong nde na naaasikaso. napadaan din ako sa peyups. namiss ko nang magbasa ng articles at makigulo sa forums. hehehe...
- galing ako ng ilocos nung weekend. isa sa destination wish list ko yun kaya naman sobrang excited at naaliw ako sa ilang araw na tinagal namin dun. madami din kaming napuntahan na lugar pero hindi ko lubos na nanamnam, kumbaga eh patikim lang. sa madaling salita, bitin. ngayon isa na siya sa gusto ko pang balikan. kelan kaya? hmmm...
- pinakamalayong lugar na narating ko:
coron, palawan
pagudpud, ilocos norte
callao cave, tuguegarao, cagayan
- hindi pa ko nakakakain ng shawarma, ever. matagal ko na ring binabalak-balak bumili pero hindi ko pa rin nagagawa...gusto na kitang tikman, shawarma!!
- i think two weeks ago pinanuod ko yung lake house kahit antuk na antok na ko, badtrip nga lang kasi nde ko natapos yung last 12 minutes. sira kasi yung cd na nagamit ko. bwahaha... kaya pinanuod ko sunod yung il mare. korean movie ito. bale yung lake house ang hollywood version nito. bida dito si sassy girl. same plot syempre magkaiba lang ng mga details. kahit malayo sa katotohanan astig pa rin sa concept. dito rin yata binase ang moments of love. wehehehe...
- meron na kong Naruto episodes 1 - 199!! pero nasa episode 40 something pa lang napapanuod ko. nyahaha...miss ko na mag-marathon. pde kaya ngayong weekend? dattebayo!
- gusto ko nang bumili ng bagong battery at yung 2 in 1 headset na pde sa radio at the same time eh hands free para sa cellphone kong antique na yata. ehehe...naaawa na ko sa tumatawag sa kin lagi na lang napuputol. =)
- andami kong movies at series na papanoorin. wala nga lang time. san ba makakahanap ng time? bigyan mo nga ako.
- kelangan ko nang dumalaw sa cd-r king. madami-dami na rin ang kelangan kong i-burn.
- gusto ko nang ayusin yung latest addition sa shells & pebbles collection ko. galing yun ng pagudpud at bangui bay. =)
- cancelled flight + free 1way ticket to mla-lao-mla or any visayas destination = exciteness! (-_-)
- birthday ngayon ni mama mary.
- gusto ko nang umuwi at magmeme. antok antok antok na ko.
- galing ako ng ilocos nung weekend. isa sa destination wish list ko yun kaya naman sobrang excited at naaliw ako sa ilang araw na tinagal namin dun. madami din kaming napuntahan na lugar pero hindi ko lubos na nanamnam, kumbaga eh patikim lang. sa madaling salita, bitin. ngayon isa na siya sa gusto ko pang balikan. kelan kaya? hmmm...
- pinakamalayong lugar na narating ko:
coron, palawan
pagudpud, ilocos norte
callao cave, tuguegarao, cagayan
- hindi pa ko nakakakain ng shawarma, ever. matagal ko na ring binabalak-balak bumili pero hindi ko pa rin nagagawa...gusto na kitang tikman, shawarma!!
- i think two weeks ago pinanuod ko yung lake house kahit antuk na antok na ko, badtrip nga lang kasi nde ko natapos yung last 12 minutes. sira kasi yung cd na nagamit ko. bwahaha... kaya pinanuod ko sunod yung il mare. korean movie ito. bale yung lake house ang hollywood version nito. bida dito si sassy girl. same plot syempre magkaiba lang ng mga details. kahit malayo sa katotohanan astig pa rin sa concept. dito rin yata binase ang moments of love. wehehehe...
- meron na kong Naruto episodes 1 - 199!! pero nasa episode 40 something pa lang napapanuod ko. nyahaha...miss ko na mag-marathon. pde kaya ngayong weekend? dattebayo!
- gusto ko nang bumili ng bagong battery at yung 2 in 1 headset na pde sa radio at the same time eh hands free para sa cellphone kong antique na yata. ehehe...naaawa na ko sa tumatawag sa kin lagi na lang napuputol. =)
- andami kong movies at series na papanoorin. wala nga lang time. san ba makakahanap ng time? bigyan mo nga ako.
- kelangan ko nang dumalaw sa cd-r king. madami-dami na rin ang kelangan kong i-burn.
- gusto ko nang ayusin yung latest addition sa shells & pebbles collection ko. galing yun ng pagudpud at bangui bay. =)
- cancelled flight + free 1way ticket to mla-lao-mla or any visayas destination = exciteness! (-_-)
- birthday ngayon ni mama mary.
- gusto ko nang umuwi at magmeme. antok antok antok na ko.
10.16.2005
sunday driving
went to the edsa shrine for the sunday mass. twas our first time. i instantly fell in love with the altar. only those who've been there and knew me would know why. ;)
***
sarap pala magsimba pag aircon ang church. ahahaha...ayus!
***
my bratty 5 year old brother in his usual pasaway antics wanted to go out the shrine to play monkey-monkey (read:umakyat at maglambitin, monkey-monkey was his term) in the nearby tree. but my mom wouldn't let him.
"sige, pag di mo ko pinalabas dito, uutot ako!" said the brat giggling.
all those within earshot can't help but laugh.
a terrorist in the making, watch out! :p
***
for the first time in a long while we were able to start and finish the mass. madalas kasi late kami. nakapag-concentrate din ako sa sermon not only because engaging yung sinasabi nung priest but also because lumayo ako sa pasaway kong kapatid. mwehehehe...pansin ko lang, di masyadong kumakanta yung mga tao puros choir lang. mas feel pa naman ang holy spirit pag join ang crowd sa pagkanta. sabi nga ni st. augustine "he who sings well, prays twice."
***
my brother and i went shopping for a suitcase and all i can ask on the salesman who was making a pitch was "waterproof ba yan?". as if the bro would take a ship going to the city of lights. may eroplano na nga pala. :p
***
sarap pala magsimba pag aircon ang church. ahahaha...ayus!
***
my bratty 5 year old brother in his usual pasaway antics wanted to go out the shrine to play monkey-monkey (read:umakyat at maglambitin, monkey-monkey was his term) in the nearby tree. but my mom wouldn't let him.
"sige, pag di mo ko pinalabas dito, uutot ako!" said the brat giggling.
all those within earshot can't help but laugh.
a terrorist in the making, watch out! :p
***
for the first time in a long while we were able to start and finish the mass. madalas kasi late kami. nakapag-concentrate din ako sa sermon not only because engaging yung sinasabi nung priest but also because lumayo ako sa pasaway kong kapatid. mwehehehe...pansin ko lang, di masyadong kumakanta yung mga tao puros choir lang. mas feel pa naman ang holy spirit pag join ang crowd sa pagkanta. sabi nga ni st. augustine "he who sings well, prays twice."
***
my brother and i went shopping for a suitcase and all i can ask on the salesman who was making a pitch was "waterproof ba yan?". as if the bro would take a ship going to the city of lights. may eroplano na nga pala. :p
10.02.2005
it's the weekend and i can't sleep!
yeah yeah yeah. i guess it's the occupational hazard of working night shift. my body is starting to become accustomed to another time zone. so it's the middle of the night, everyone is deep in slumber while i'm here posting. yeba!
it's been a while...hmmm...what have i got to tell...well, i bought a fish today! yep, a goldfish. a hyper, playful, shiny, shimmering fish. hehe. we were on our way home this morning erm yesterday morning that is, when my officemate stopped in Muñoz to buy slippers. there are hundreds of them, slippers but not one caught my attention better than the fishes in the corner of the store. there they are packaged, swimming in circles inside the minuscule space the plastic provides. i hauled each one on eye level looking for nothing in particular coz i really know nothing about them. four to five little fishes in oranges and blacks majored the choices. they all look the same and at the back of my mind they'd prolly die out on me coz i don't know how to take care of those things. i started to gaze away and look again to the variety of slippers as i reached for the last plastic. there it was, a single goldfish amidst the crowd of other fishes. still not knowing how i'll be able to prolong it's life, i paid for it. hasty decision? nahh...you see while looking at it i remembered the insightful conversation i had the night before with someone. it has nothing to do with fishes i must tell you but it was touching and refreshing at the same time, something i never expected. still, what does the fish got to do with it? i have no idea. hehe. no, really, i guess that goldfish signals a lot of things for me personally. changes, risks, lessons and beginnings. pretty deep huh? not really. the thing is, i could learn how to take care of it. i could try at least. coz there's no harm in trying...just a couple of dead fishes along the way i guess. hehe. basta! the fish is a welcoming sign on my new journey to wherever it may lead me. i'm ready.
now, i think i can sleep. c",)
~~~
btw, i named it mac.
it's been a while...hmmm...what have i got to tell...well, i bought a fish today! yep, a goldfish. a hyper, playful, shiny, shimmering fish. hehe. we were on our way home this morning erm yesterday morning that is, when my officemate stopped in Muñoz to buy slippers. there are hundreds of them, slippers but not one caught my attention better than the fishes in the corner of the store. there they are packaged, swimming in circles inside the minuscule space the plastic provides. i hauled each one on eye level looking for nothing in particular coz i really know nothing about them. four to five little fishes in oranges and blacks majored the choices. they all look the same and at the back of my mind they'd prolly die out on me coz i don't know how to take care of those things. i started to gaze away and look again to the variety of slippers as i reached for the last plastic. there it was, a single goldfish amidst the crowd of other fishes. still not knowing how i'll be able to prolong it's life, i paid for it. hasty decision? nahh...you see while looking at it i remembered the insightful conversation i had the night before with someone. it has nothing to do with fishes i must tell you but it was touching and refreshing at the same time, something i never expected. still, what does the fish got to do with it? i have no idea. hehe. no, really, i guess that goldfish signals a lot of things for me personally. changes, risks, lessons and beginnings. pretty deep huh? not really. the thing is, i could learn how to take care of it. i could try at least. coz there's no harm in trying...just a couple of dead fishes along the way i guess. hehe. basta! the fish is a welcoming sign on my new journey to wherever it may lead me. i'm ready.
now, i think i can sleep. c",)
~~~
btw, i named it mac.
9.23.2005
lost and found
i lost my favorite hanky. sadness. clumsy me. it is in my favorite shade of green with little bears in it. it's my fault, i admit. jeez. i hate losing something because i know how it feels. i'll be in agony for days looking for it or blaming reckless me. the worst is being reminded of its loss everytime i'll see anything that reminds me of it. argh! that's why i'm so careful with my things. although sometimes however careful i may be, there will always come a moment when negligence slips in and whips havoc on my sanity. but just as what the saying goes if a door closes, a window will open or something to that effect. heh! so after some days of agonizing over the lost hanky, my last lost something resurfaced. that prepaid mrt card i thought i’ve left in the slot on my way out the buendia station on one of my visit to paseo. i was running late that morning, so as soon as i was collected in the office and was able to put my things in order, that card was gone. i’ve searched my pockets, jacket and bag for it. after rummaging through my things i got exhausted tracking back where i might have dropped it. right then i’ve accepted the fact that it was really gone. but i found it today! it turned out that it was inside the secret pocket of the jacket i used that day! how could that happened? when in fact i’ve turned those pockets inside out. weird huh?! oh well, i’m still sad about that hanky. huhu.
9.01.2005
of rainbows and uninvited memories
I saw a rainbow last Sunday afternoon.
My kid brother excitedly pointed it out to my sister and me.
If my memory serves me right,
the last time I saw one was about 4 years ago.
I was so excited then that I even texted my friends about it.
It was like witnessing something magical for the first time!
That same day I will be moving in to our boarding house…
With a new sense of freedom and the prospect of a blooming infatuation,
Life was pure bliss!
Catching a glimpse of a rainbow again was different.
Although it still is a heavenly sight to behold for me.
I am not the same.
Times have changed.
Even my feelings are something else.
Melancholy strikes me…
Then I remember reading somewhere
that rainbows are signs of good luck.
Something stirred within me.
Because from where I am in this journey,
That kind of blessing from above is definitely appreciated.
It wasn’t only a signal of providence but also a symbol of hope.
~~~
first post! wiihhh...
My kid brother excitedly pointed it out to my sister and me.
If my memory serves me right,
the last time I saw one was about 4 years ago.
I was so excited then that I even texted my friends about it.
It was like witnessing something magical for the first time!
That same day I will be moving in to our boarding house…
With a new sense of freedom and the prospect of a blooming infatuation,
Life was pure bliss!
Catching a glimpse of a rainbow again was different.
Although it still is a heavenly sight to behold for me.
I am not the same.
Times have changed.
Even my feelings are something else.
Melancholy strikes me…
Then I remember reading somewhere
that rainbows are signs of good luck.
Something stirred within me.
Because from where I am in this journey,
That kind of blessing from above is definitely appreciated.
It wasn’t only a signal of providence but also a symbol of hope.
~~~
first post! wiihhh...
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